Having a talk with my gf, LADIES HELP?

It sounds like you are in a one sided relationship. You need to tell he the truth about how you feel even if it does piss her off. It seem like you love her and really want to make her happy, but she needs to be happy with herself in order to be happy with herself. maybe she needs to work on that. Be honest and try to be understanding of her feeling but also be understanding of yours. You relationship is not going to work unless you two can find a happy medium. Good Luck!